When my husband went to be with the Lord I felt the loss deeply. His laughter, his smile, his humor. The fun we had traveling, the pillow talks late at night. Sitting across from each other having our morning coffee and the love that shown in his eyes. Oh yeah, A big hole in my heart was left upon his passing.
Over the years I’ve thought about how people try to fill those holes left behind by any number of life’s circumstances. For some it’s alcohol, others drugs. What about promiscuity or numerous marriages?
I know of one woman who quickly adopted a child to replace the daughter she lost. It particular irks me when I have lost a beloved pet and am told, “You can get another one” like I just lost a tea cup and can run down to Walmart for another one. Or how about, “Your young, you can marry again?”
Losses are heart wounds regardless of the loss! It takes time to heal our heart.
Humans are fickle people to be sure. We often think that someone or something can replace what we have lost. Be it on a conscious or sub-conscious level. But can we replace what was lost? Can I replace a lost childhood due to abuse? Can I replace the rejection of a parent? Can I replace the love that I felt for a pet or a friend? No!
Regardless of who or what the loss we will have some memory of the loss; be it good, bad, or the ugly. The Lord Jesus knows our hearts. In Palm 147: 3 He says, “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” He doesn’t say He gives us amnesia.
We can’t fill the hole but we can find comfort. “Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.” Matthew 5:4
If the hole is due to parental rejection the Lord our God says, “Even if my father and mother abandon me, the Lord will hold me close.” Psalm 27:10
Instead of trying to fill that empty place in our heart we can cherish the good, heal the broken, and count on our Lord and Savior to help us through, overcome, and move on in love.
“And He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” 2cor.12:9
Blessings to you. 🙂