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Unjust Fear?
My grass has been cut, the weed eating done, and a few weeds are sprayed with weed killer. My landscapers have left and joyfully I stand gazing at the chopped off root of a large shrub that would fill with bees and cause problems every time I went to the mailbox. The shrub is gone! Happily I think, now how can I make a little flower garden around that post? Anyone who knows me well knows I love to play in the dirt. My yard is a testimony of much labor, an injured back, and a depleted wallet but oh well, off to Home Depot I go.
I grab the cart and joyfully push it up and down the Garden Center isles of blooming plants, shrubs, and bags of dirt. I’m trying to decide exactly what will look nice in the small space and end up hefting curved cement landscape edger’s into the cart. Now to choose some flowers. Strolling slowing along the perennials, I don’t like annuals. They die and I have to replant more causing the wallet to squeak louder, no perennials it is. I choose three small cartons of plants and suddenly feel a cramping within my tummy. Oh, dear, where’s the rest room?
Home Depot is known for their participation in not only the hiring of gay persons, approval of the gay agenda, participation in “Pride” parades, and that they threatened to boycott North Carolina. My immediate thought is, can I wait until I get home? The answer is No! A vision of a male swishing into the lady’s room flashes across my mind.
At this particular store, I don’t know about the others, the restrooms are way in the middle of the store and all the way on the back walls. I was not looking forward to rolling a cart with cement blocks and beautifully blooming flowers all the way through the store hunting down the lady’s room. What was worse was the fearful thoughts that began to make themselves known in my mind about the transgender bathroom issues.
My mind begins sorting through various scenarios of what can happen if I enter the lady’s room and there’s a creepy man, or any man, in there or if one comes in while I’m taking care of business. I stop dead in my tracks right in the center of the aisle and take a deep breath. Can I wait to get home? No!
Does this sound like I’m being overly dramatic? I mean so what if a man comes in? Well, the so what is that when a woman has survived being sexually abused in childhood, has been gang raped, date raped or any other kind of raped or sexually abused her thoughts immediately begin to take on the fear of once again being vulnerable to being attacked and harmed.
No matter the healing we victims have had through the years there is an inbred fear of having to experience another horrific attack. Women and little girls are not safe in this world for the meer reason they are female and there are men that want to use them and abuse them for their own perverted pleasures! Wake up people it’s penis versus vagina and unless the women are armed with a Glock or is a Russian female wrestler the penis will win! I do not apologize to those who may find that statement “offensive” for it is the evil world we live in and today is more of a reality than it has ever been before. Get over it!
Stepping around the partitioned wall with its sign, Ladies, after making sure there is no sign indicating this is a “transgender” bathroom, I scan the open space. A lady employee exists a stall and smiles brightly at me as she heads for the sink. I breathe a sigh of relief and decide not to ask her to stand guard at the entrance.
Business is taken care of as quickly as I can and with a huge sigh of relief I dart out the door, and yes, without washing my hands, grab my cart and make a beeline back to the Garden Center. I’m happy to report I now have a small flowering garden around the base of my mailbox and praise be to God I encountered no adverse circumstances while taking care of business in the lady’s room.
Now for the task of getting over the immense anger I feel that I cannot enter a public restroom without fear because of a few screwed up in the head people who want to force their perverse and demonic induced sins down my throat as well as the throat of all people and especially Christians!
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Transgender Surgery Isn’t the Solution
A drastic physical change doesn’t address underlying psycho-social troubles.
By PAUL MCHUGH
Updated May 13, 2016 2:18 p.m. ET
Editors’ note: This op-ed was originally published on June 12, 2014.
The government and media alliance advancing the transgender cause has gone into overdrive in recent weeks. On May 30, a U.S. Department of Health and Human Services review board ruled that Medicare can pay for the “reassignment” surgery sought by the transgendered—those who say that they don’t identify with their biological sex. Earlier last month Defense Secretary Chuck Hagel said that he was “open” to lifting a ban on transgender individuals serving in the military. Time magazine, seeing the trend, ran a cover story for its June 9 issue called “The Transgender Tipping Point: America’s next civil rights frontier.”
Yet policy makers and the media are doing no favors either to the public or the transgendered by treating their confusions as a right in need of defending rather than as a mental disorder that deserves understanding, treatment and prevention. This intensely felt sense of being transgendered constitutes a mental disorder in two respects. The first is that the idea of sex misalignment is simply mistaken—it does not correspond with physical reality. The second is that it can lead to grim psychological outcomes.
The transgendered suffer a disorder of “assumption” like those in other disorders familiar to psychiatrists. With the transgendered, the disordered assumption is that the individual differs from what seems given in nature—namely one’s maleness or femaleness. Other kinds of disordered assumptions are held by those who suffer from anorexia and bulimia nervosa, where the assumption that departs from physical reality is the belief by the dangerously thin that they are overweight.
With body dysmorphic disorder, an often socially crippling condition, the individual is consumed by the assumption “I’m ugly.” These disorders occur in subjects who have come to believe that some of their psycho-social conflicts or problems will be resolved if they can change the way that they appear to others. Such ideas work like ruling passions in their subjects’ minds and tend to be accompanied by a solipsistic argument.
For the transgendered, this argument holds that one’s feeling of “gender” is a conscious, subjective sense that, being in one’s mind, cannot be questioned by others. The individual often seeks not just society’s tolerance of this “personal truth” but affirmation of it. Here rests the support for “transgender equality,” the demands for government payment for medical and surgical treatments, and for access to all sex-based public roles and privileges.
With this argument, advocates for the transgendered have persuaded several states—including California, New Jersey and Massachusetts—to pass laws barring psychiatrists, even with parental permission, from striving to restore natural gender feelings to a transgender minor. That government can intrude into parents’ rights to seek help in guiding their children indicates how powerful these advocates have become.
How to respond? Psychiatrists obviously must challenge the solipsistic concept that what is in the mind cannot be questioned. Disorders of consciousness, after all, represent psychiatry’s domain; declaring them off-limits would eliminate the field. Many will recall how, in the 1990s, an accusation of parental sex abuse of children was deemed unquestionable by the solipsists of the “recovered memory” craze.
You won’t hear it from those championing transgender equality, but controlled and follow-up studies reveal fundamental problems with this movement. When children who reported transgender feelings were tracked without medical or surgical treatment at both Vanderbilt University and London’s Portman Clinic, 70%-80% of them spontaneously lost those feelings. Some 25% did have persisting feelings; what differentiates those individuals remains to be discerned.
We at Johns Hopkins University—which in the 1960s was the first American medical center to venture into “sex-reassignment surgery”—launched a study in the 1970s comparing the outcomes of transgendered people who had the surgery with the outcomes of those who did not. Most of the surgically treated patients described themselves as “satisfied” by the results, but their subsequent psycho-social adjustments were no better than those who didn’t have the surgery. And so at Hopkins we stopped doing sex-reassignment surgery, since producing a “satisfied” but still troubled patient seemed an inadequate reason for surgically amputating normal organs.
It now appears that our long-ago decision was a wise one. A 2011 study at the Karolinska Institute in Sweden produced the most illuminating results yet regarding the transgendered, evidence that should give advocates pause. The long-term study—up to 30 years—followed 324 people who had sex-reassignment surgery. The study revealed that beginning about 10 years after having the surgery, the transgendered began to experience increasing mental difficulties. Most shockingly, their suicide mortality rose almost 20-fold above the comparable nontransgender population. This disturbing result has as yet no explanation but probably reflects the growing sense of isolation reported by the aging transgendered after surgery. The high suicide rate certainly challenges the surgery prescription.
There are subgroups of the transgendered, and for none does “reassignment” seem apt. One group includes male prisoners like Pvt. Bradley Manning, the convicted national-security leaker who now wishes to be called Chelsea. Facing long sentences and the rigors of a men’s prison, they have an obvious motive for wanting to change their sex and hence their prison. Given that they committed their crimes as males, they should be punished as such; after serving their time, they will be free to reconsider their gender.
Another subgroup consists of young men and women susceptible to suggestion from “everything is normal” sex education, amplified by Internet chat groups. These are the transgender subjects most like anorexia nervosa patients: They become persuaded that seeking a drastic physical change will banish their psycho-social problems. “Diversity” counselors in their schools, rather like cult leaders, may encourage these young people to distance themselves from their families and offer advice on rebutting arguments against having transgender surgery. Treatments here must begin with removing the young person from the suggestive environment and offering a counter-message in family therapy.
Then there is the subgroup of very young, often prepubescent children who notice distinct sex roles in the culture and, exploring how they fit in, begin imitating the opposite sex. Misguided doctors at medical centers including Boston’s Children’s Hospital have begun trying to treat this behavior by administering puberty-delaying hormones to render later sex-change surgeries less onerous—even though the drugs stunt the children’s growth and risk causing sterility. Given that close to 80% of such children would abandon their confusion and grow naturally into adult life if untreated, these medical interventions come close to child abuse. A better way to help these children: with devoted parenting.
At the heart of the problem is confusion over the nature of the transgendered. “Sex change” is biologically impossible. People who undergo sex-reassignment surgery do not change from men to women or vice versa. Rather, they become feminized men or masculinized women. Claiming that this is civil-rights matter and encouraging surgical intervention is in reality to collaborate with and promote a mental disorder.
Dr. McHugh, former psychiatrist in chief at Johns Hopkins Hospital, is the author of “Try to Remember: Psychiatry’s Clash Over Meaning, Memory, and Mind” (Dana Press, 2008).